How to handle fear of the future

Does the future freak you out? If so, you're not alone! It's easy for our imaginations to run wild creating scenes of absolute misery and despair when we're not sure what to expect. Especially when there's already something in our currently reality that has us on tilt.

Keep reading to learn what's actually making the future seem so scary, and how to kick your fears to the curb.

The key to leading a love-filled life

Finding and removing the barriers to one’s heart is far less uncomfortable – and takes far less energy – than maintaining them.

Just think about that for a moment. If you feel like you’re putting a guard up in certain relationships (or all relationships) in order to protect yourself, it’s taking up precious energy on a consistent basis. Like, an every day kinda basis.

Mind racing before bed? This one is for you

Here's the tricky thing about our intuition: sometimes it rings the loudest when delivering information we really don't want to hear.

Yet this information is the truth, and it's always more valuable than any advice or insights we could glean outside of ourselves. It's also worth noting that what's real for you doesn't go away, no matter how hard you try to suppress it. 

How to revamp your 2018 resolutions (so that you’re actually excited about them)

Pull up your list of 2018 resolutions, or write out an unfiltered list of things you've been thinking about doing this next year. Once you've got that, take an honest look at what you've written, and identify the tone underneath it. How are you talking about yourself and your actions? Is there any part of you that is coming from the place of needing to fix yourself? Any part of you that doesn't feel like you are good or worthy enough right now? If so, I'm gonna have you pause right there.

Crazy to think that⚡️”the before time” ⚡️ wasn’t too long ago! 3 years ago today I was celebrating Galentine’s Day with some friends when we decided to create my online dating profile. I had been doing a lot of personal development work around relationships and felt more ready and excited than ever to find my soulmate 😍 Joining a dating site on Valentine’s Day turned out to be a hilarious adventure — sooo many people were looking for last-minute dates (and booty calls!). It was a mess 😂 fortunately things calmed down the next day, and I started to feel more hopeful 🙏🏻 I knew what I wanted and trusted that my person was out there looking for me too. It was just up to me to keep putting myself out there so we could find each other! 💑 Sure enough, 6 weeks later I got a message from my forever valentine...and the rest is history! 💝 Happy Valentine’s Day @will.rippetoe! Thanks for finding me and being the best husband and partner in crime I could ask for 😘 📸: @catanacomics
Have you ever been super nervous about something, conquered your fear, felt a rush of adrenaline, and then needed a nap? 😂 . This is legit how I feel after every networking event where I have to participate in any form of public speaking 🙋🏻‍♀️ . People often tell me that I don’t seem nervous at all when I’m sharing, and I think it’s because I show up ready and willing to dive into the discomfort. I’ve gotten used to it, and I know I can handle whatever feelings surface 💪🏻 . That said, it can still be quite the whirlwind 🌪 Leaning into discomfort requires energy, after all. And the only reason I’m able to do it consistently is because I have comfort time built into my calendar too! . No matter how much courage I need to call upon, I know I have my “me time” on deck 🙏🏻 . It seems counterintuitive, but I’ve learned that rest doesn’t stop my momentum...it’s actually the secret ingredient needed to maintain my momentum! ✨ . Taking time to rest allows me to show up relaxed and at ease 😌 even when nerves are also present. . This realization inspired today’s blog post, which is all about scheduling time to rest — especially when you’re on a growth path! . Click my profile link to check it out, and get my quick, 5-step process for incorporating R&R into your weekly schedule too 💆🏻‍♀️ . 📸: @will.rippetoe ❤️
Rainy days are my favorite for working on creative projects ☔️ . I love being in the zone on days like today, but I don’t rely on things like the weather to kick into gear and feel super productive. I also don’t rely on inspiration dropping in... . Instead, I create my own momentum and inspiration. Consciously. Consistently. Whenever I want! . I do this by prioritizing and showing up fully for the key tasks that move the needle in my business 💃🏻 . In the past, I had no real plan or method for prioritizing tasks. I handled things as they came up and avoided some of the action steps that felt too uncomfortable (like going to networking events) 🙅🏻‍♀️ . I struggled with what to focus on and how to make the most of my working hours and spent my time bouncing from task to task and feeling like I was doing ALL the things…but with nothing to show for it. . I was doing a million little tasks but nothing that really moved my business forward. I felt scattered and constantly behind 😔 . Everything changed once I got clear on what to prioritize and where to direct my time and energy. Once I showed up consistently in those areas, I finally started creating momentum 🙏🏻 . Following through on my most essential tasks requires regular mental discipline, but knowing what to focus on is a game 👏🏻 changer 👏🏻 . So much so that I created a free guide that walks you through the exact process I use and share with my clients to get clear on their key tasks 🎉 . The Essential Tasks Guide is designed to quickly and easily help you identify what generates the most momentum (and money) in YOUR business 👊🏻 . Click the [FREE DOWNLOAD] link in my bio to receive your copy of the guide via email and test it out for yourself 🤗 . **NOTE** If you already get my emails, you’ll be getting the PDF in your inbox tomorrow morning ❤️
I recently lead a workshop where the topic of fear came up 👀 . The group was sharing about moving beyond fear, and how to best eliminate it 🙅🏻‍♀️ . The problem is, you can’t eliminate fear. Not entirely. Not if you’re committed to growth and expansion and making your dreams a reality 🙏🏻 . Anytime you’re playing big, fear WILL show up 🤷🏻‍♀️ . I encourage you to view it as a positive indicator, not a negative one. Here’s why: . If fear is present, it means you’re playing BIG . And it means you care. A lot. . Whatever degree of fear you’re experiencing (let’s say it’s intense) — you will experience the same intensity of JOY, pride, and exhilaration on the other side! 🤩 . Go get that treasure! It’s waiting for you ❤️ . P.S. shout out to my girl @morgankingrealestate for reminding me of this epic quote last week!
When you glimpse your future and know you’re meant for more, it can be exhilarating and terrifying at the same time. Stepping into the fullest version of YOU is not for the faint of heart! 🙈 . It requires you to let elements of your old world fall away, and that process can feel like one big upheaval 🌪 . Sometimes what you’ve been clinging onto, often out of fear, ends suddenly and out of nowhere. Jobs or relationships fall away because they are no longer a vibrational match to who you’ve become 💖 . You are given a clean slate. You are being called forward to live out your purpose wholeheartedly. And — good news — you are READY (whether you realize it or not!) . So, what are you stepping into? Claim it below! 👇🏻 . There’s no turning back now. . It’s time to LEAP! . I’ll start: this year, I’m stepping into my personal power! I’m committed to authentic self-expression and owning + sharing my gifts 🤗 . 📸: @willdabeast_nd on our last trip to Puerto Vallarta. Because this red dress (really any red dress) makes me feel powerful AF 😂💃🏻
Who else is guilty of getting stuck in planning mode? 🙋🏻‍♀️ . This quote is on the cover of the journal I’m using, and it’s been an especially helpful kick in the booty the last few days! 💥 . I have my 2019 intentions and gameplan all mapped out, and the temptation to keep tweaking them is REAL 😬 . Staying in planning mode is such a sneaky form of avoidance, because it *seems* like you’re being productive…but over-planning is just another way to avoid taking next steps! 🚫 . Something I’ve learned as a #RecoveringPerfectionist is that perfectionism is rooted in fear. Fear of making the wrong choice. Fear of what other people will think. Fear of not being or doing or knowing enough. Fear of failure. Even fear of success! And, I don’t know about you, but I’m so over letting fear run the show! 👋🏻 . If you’re like me and you’ve got big goals for 2019, what’s required is taking massive action — learning through DOING 💃🏻 . Getting started is often the hardest part, but it’s also the ticket to getting ahead and generating momentum towards whatever it is that you want! 🌈 . Who’s with me and up for the challenge?! . What’s the first step you need to take to get started? Mine is creating a worksheet that’s designed to help you remember what a boss you are. Once I’m done, I’ll share it with you! . I’m planning on getting back in touch with my love of creating content, so the worksheet I build will be the first of many resources I share this year! 😉 . What about you? Declare what you're committed to below, and let’s do this together! 💪🏻
Soooo Will and I are legally married!! 🤗❤️ . Our Mexico wedding in April is a symbolic ceremony, so we decided to tie the knot while we were visiting my parents in Maryland over the holidays! 👰🏻🤵🏻 . Will had initially suggested this, but I wasn’t sure if it’d be too much to squeeze into our trip. But then I found out how doable it actually was, so I decided to “propose” to him with a stand-in ring after opening gifts on Christmas, asking him to marry me that week 😁 . Will immediately shoved the ring on without saying anything! He didn’t realize it was my grandpa’s ring (a stand-in), and not his ring that we’d already sized. It was way too small and immediately got stuck on his finger 🙈 oops! . It felt very full circle because I, too, did not say an official “yes” when he proposed! Apparently I just said, “put it on!!!” #ZeroChill 🚫❄️ . We planned our wedding 2 years’ out, so it was fun to add in a spontaneous element - and go for it when we were ready...because why not?! That’s pretty much how we’ve rolled our entire relationship - following what felt right - and it’s been amazing to see how the pieces have fallen into place every step of the way 👣 . As I reflect on the last few years of meeting, dating, and now marrying (!!!) Will, some the lessons that stand out the most to me are: . 💖 working on yourself and removing your own barriers to love and receiving is the best thing you can do - in general, and especially if you’re wanting to find your person and experience soul-level connection . 💖 dating people can be one helluva rollercoaster (#BeenThere), but it really is all worth it in the end. I’d relive every heartache, knowing it got me one step closer to meeting my love . 💖 how someone shows up for you in life’s more challenging moments is so telling. You deserve someone whose compassion and commitment are truly unwavering. There’s nothing better than unconditional love. . 💖 manifestation is no joke. Know what you want, identify how you want to feel, trust that it’s on its way, and take action in the direction of inviting it into your life. You’ll be amazed at what (or who) shows up! . Continued in the comments below! 👇🏻👇🏻
Too real 😂 Merry Christmas! ❤️ . 📸: @designbychoice