How to handle fear of the future

Does the future freak you out? If so, you're not alone! It's easy for our imaginations to run wild creating scenes of absolute misery and despair when we're not sure what to expect. Especially when there's already something in our currently reality that has us on tilt.

Keep reading to learn what's actually making the future seem so scary, and how to kick your fears to the curb.

The key to leading a love-filled life

Finding and removing the barriers to one’s heart is far less uncomfortable – and takes far less energy – than maintaining them.

Just think about that for a moment. If you feel like you’re putting a guard up in certain relationships (or all relationships) in order to protect yourself, it’s taking up precious energy on a consistent basis. Like, an every day kinda basis.

Mind racing before bed? This one is for you

Here's the tricky thing about our intuition: sometimes it rings the loudest when delivering information we really don't want to hear.

Yet this information is the truth, and it's always more valuable than any advice or insights we could glean outside of ourselves. It's also worth noting that what's real for you doesn't go away, no matter how hard you try to suppress it. 

How to revamp your 2018 resolutions (so that you’re actually excited about them)

Pull up your list of 2018 resolutions, or write out an unfiltered list of things you've been thinking about doing this next year. Once you've got that, take an honest look at what you've written, and identify the tone underneath it. How are you talking about yourself and your actions? Is there any part of you that is coming from the place of needing to fix yourself? Any part of you that doesn't feel like you are good or worthy enough right now? If so, I'm gonna have you pause right there.

Are you a goal hopper? 🤔 . I was talking with a client this week about goal-hopping and “shiny object syndrome.” This is the tendency to get really excited about a new goal (hello, New Year’s Resolutions!), dive in full force, and lose steam after a few weeks 🚂 . Then, a flashy new goal catches your eye and draws your attention and energy away from the initial goal, which you totally abandon before you even get to see any of your efforts pay off! 😬 . The cycle continues, and you end up starting a lot of things and giving up on them before you’ve had a chance to see them through. You’re working hard, consistently, but with little to show for it 🤦🏻‍♀️ . Does this goal-hopping sound familiar? If so, today’s blog post is for you! . Click my profile link for a quick exercise that will help you get (and stay!) motivated ASAP 🙌🏻
Today is #WorldKindnessDay ❤️ . The more I’ve coached people, the more I’ve realized how multifaceted everyone is — and how many layers there are to each person’s life. . The ones who seemingly “have it all together”? Well, they have their bad days, insecurities, and hard stuff they’re dealing with too. . The truth is we all have parts of our lives that don’t make it to the Instagram highlight reel, and that can be easy to forget when we mostly see just the wins and happy moments 🌈 . All of that to say: you never know what someone else is going through, so you might as well be kind 🙏🏻 . This pic is from a @happsterssquad event where we spread kindness by giving free flowers to strangers! 💐 . It doesn’t take much to make someone’s day. A friendly smile or gesture can make a huge difference! Besides, being loving is our natural state, and it feels so good to operate from that place 💖 . What’s your favorite way to spread a little kindness?? . An easy way to get started is by telling a friend you haven't talked to in a while something you appreciate about them below👇🏻 I’ll kick it off!
Today’s blog post is all about what to expect when you’re expanding ⚡️ . If you take new and different action consistently, your life WILL change. Often in really big, unexpected, and wondrous ways! 💖 . The payoff for this kind of growth is huge, and the process is just that: a process. Changing your life from the inside out can be really uncomfortable, because it requires an unraveling of your current reality (including relationships, careers, you name it!) 🙈 . Are you willing to let go of the old ways of being and doing in order to open yourself up to the new-and-improved version of your life…even if there are growing pains along the way? 👀 . That dream you have…how badly do you really want it? 🤔 . Check out the link in my profile to learn more about what to expect and how to deal with the in-between stage that occurs *right before* the arrival of what you want 🙌🏻
Guess where I’m headed! 😁 . Hint: it’s the land of #shiplap, silos, and #demoday 🔨 . That’s right, y’all...I’m going to Texas! ✈️ . We planned this trip to visit our friends and explore just for the fun of it, and it’s moments like these that I love being an entrepreneur and the freedom to create my own schedule 📆 . Time to have some fun (and eat lots of BBQ 🍗) . Our first stop is Waco, and I can’t WAIT to nerd out about all-things #FixerUpper in the place where it all began! 🤓 . Anyone else feel like @joannagaines is their spirit animal? 🐐
“Don’t waste your time on girls with hats. They tend to be very proper.” 👒 . Name the movie! 🎥👇🏻 . Hint: it takes place in my home state 🦀
It’s so easy to keep our eyes on the horizon of what’s next and forget to take in and appreciate what we’ve already created 🙈 . Want to feel better immediately? . Stop scrolling, and let your mind rest upon the good stuff in your current reality 😌 . What is something you now have that you once dreamt about? . Think back to whenever this time was. Maybe it was years, months, or even a few weeks ago... . If you could go back in time and reassure yourself, what would you say? . Tell me in the comments below! 💕 . P.S. Whatever you would tell your former self is likely the same message your *future* self has for you right now! 😉
Kicked off #SundayFunday with this crew! . This was the first weekend since our move that we didn’t have any errands or random home-related things to do! 🙏🏻 . I unpacked our last box yesterday, and today I was really craving some fun and #treatyoself time 👑 That looked like: . 🍳 a yummy brunch with @el_fro and @petermddn! . 🐶 playtime with Will’s family’s dog . 💅🏻 getting my nails done . 🌮 eating linner (lunch/dinner aka the real MVP of meal times) at our go-to Mexican spot . 🏖 walking along the beach and catching up with my girl @dplots . 👽 putting on one of those face mask sheets with cutouts that look terrifying (but make your skin feel amazing!) . 👻 scaring the sh*t out of @willdabeast_nd when he walked into the room just now and caught sight of said face mask 😂 lol hey, I tried to warn him! Reaction = priceless. The cherry on top of a pretty great day! . What was the highlight of your weekend?
Shoutout to my favorite fruit AND my favorite mindset hack for showing up as my full and most authentic self, even when old fears around rejection or not being liked resurface. What in the world do peaches have to do with that?! . Well, I’ll tell you! One of my teachers, Brooke Castillo, uses a metaphor about peaches in order to explain how being liked has nothing to do with you...and I am pretty much obsessed with it 🤓 . She says some people like peaches, some don't, and that means nothing about their value as a fruit. The peaches don't conform or change in an attempt to be more liked. They just keep being peaches! . I LOVE this example, mostly because I think peaches are the most delicious fruit in the world and my first thought is “how could you NOT like peaches?!” I mean…whaaat? They’re so good. They taste like candy. They’re summer in fruit form! Anyone else agree? 🙋🏻 . Yet Brooke doesn’t care for them, and neither does my fiancé Will! But that doesn’t take away from how much I love them…or mean anything about peaches themselves. Mostly, I just feel like they're missing out! . Now, swap in any person (or yourself) in place of the peach. We're all naturally drawn to different people. You won't vibe with everyone (even if your husband or coworker or best friend loves them), and not everyone will vibe with you. And that’s okay. It simply comes down to different tastes and preferences. Plus, the more YOU you can be, the easier it will be to find “your people" 👯 . So the next time you encounter someone you don't gel with or sense doesn’t particularly like you, remember the peach example! . Because for every person out there who doesn't like peaches, there's someone (like me!) who wouldn't want them (or you!) to be any different ☺️ . Spread the love! Tag someone below who you like and appreciate just the way they are 💖
One of my all-time favorites 🤗 . I found myself trying to quote this to a friend the other day and I totally butchered it 😂 . We were talking about exploring careers that don't "make sense" or logistically line up with what you've been doing up until now 🤔 . Sometimes the paths we're drawn to seem less practical or financially feasible. I remember feeling this way when I met a Life Coach for the first time. I was in awe of the way she shifted the energy in the room and got everyone to open up and connect on an authentic level, but becoming a coach myself seemed out of the question. . It was a total departure from what I’d studied and my work experience up until that point, and I had so many questions: . How do you even become a coach? . Can you make a living as one? . Do I even have enough life experience to do something like that? . Yet I couldn’t ignore the pull towards this industry... . My own doubts and fears initially prevented me from taking the leap for a few more years, but in the mean time, I let myself explore... . I absorbed as many self-help and coaching books, videos, and interviews as I could. I spent hours upon hours watching online summits and recordings of other people coach. I was fascinated, and even though I didn't know how or when or even IF I would pursue it myself, I let myself be drawn towards it. . Something magical happens when we lean into whatever it is that naturally and inexplicably lights us up. We don't have to make any sudden moves or quick leaps. We can take it a step at a time 👣 . As long as we continue step, again and again, and trust that path, we'll eventually land on what we really love — and in the mean time, we get to experience the joy of simply being on the path towards it 💕 . What about you?? What’s something you love nerding out about? What fascinates you and never gets old?