Growing up, my dad told me that people are only able to be “as happy as they can stand to be.” I remember noticing that people naturally varied in their capacity to take in the good around them. At the same time, this ability can be learned ― and stretched. This is great news, because it means that anyone has the ability to become more joyful, grateful, expansive versions of themselves…should they choose to do so. Fast forward decades later, and my coach taught me about the power of checking in with yourself and asking, “how good can I stand it?"
The truth is, no matter what you do for a living or choose to pursue in your free time, all of it is valuable. All of it matters more than you think. And the world needs your love and light.
Planning and creating my first workshop was an adrenaline-filled process, and ultimately one of my greatest personal and professional successes to date. Yes, the workshop went smoothly, but beyond that I was reminded of what happens when you 1) step out of your comfort zone, 2) do the thing that scares you, and 3) remember to get out of your own way.
Slowing down is crucial to make sure you’re moving in the right direction, and creating a life that you actually want to be a part of every day.
Otherwise, you might go go go in a single direction for years, only to wake up one day and wonder, “How did I even get here? Is this what I really want? Do I like my life? Am I happy?"
Are you pressed for time? Totally overwhelmed by your never-ending to-do list and unable to recharge? Perhaps it feels impossible to take time for yourself — to enjoy your life, and actually squeeze in some fun and adventure. If this resonates with you — and you feel like you’re too wiped to carry on as you have been — I’m going to suggest something that might feel counter-intuitive at first.
Underneath your "should" is a gold mine of information. Maybe it’s a long-held desire, a heartfelt dream that still feels intimidating — one that you don't feel “ready” to tackle. But maybe it’s not. It could be a judgment about how you’re not currently doing “enough,’ or a step towards someone else’s vision for you that is well-intentioned but doesn’t feel aligned with what you envision for yourself. How do you tell the difference?