Introducing: holiday permission slips!
For me, for you, and for anyone and everyone who needs a little reminder that it's okay to make whatever self-honoring choices we need to in order to show up with love. Because what better gift is there, really?
Planning for failure? Fantasize instead
You're taking a big leap of faith and putting yourself out there. And the unknown awaits. Before the event itself has even begun you feel yourself starting to plan for the worst-case scenario. What will I do if it doesn't work out? What's my back-up plan?
There's nothing wrong with some healthy preparedness. But at what point does planning become obsessive, fear-inducing, and just plain draining?
Why it's worth being real with people you love
I'd realized I wasn't happy in my current situation and needed to make a big change. Ugh. There's never a convenient time for those kind of moments of clarity. I'd attempted to avoid this realization for a while by staying busy, yet my inner voice was relentless and only became louder as I felt more exhausted. Eventually, the message was undeniable. Oh my god, what are you doing with your life? This is not sustainable. You need to get out.
Do you let yourself get excited? Or do you worry about getting your hopes up?
It’s easy to halt dreaming out of fear of getting “ahead of yourself,” jinxing things, or feeling extra hurt if they don’t work out as planned. You can trick yourself into thinking think that if you’re not invested, you'll care less about how things unfold.
Yet the more you can move past the fears and what-if’s and lean into the goodness of your experience in any moment, the more likely you are to attract positive things into your life.
Why setting boundaries is totally worth it
Love & loss: a letter from the heart
It’s okay to feel everything you're feeling. It’s okay if none of it makes sense. It’s okay if you don’t feel like yourself. It’s okay if you start crying in line at the grocery store. It’s okay if you feel angry. It’s okay if you feel a bit of everything, or nothing at all. Let your feelings — whatever they are — be okay.
The good life: are you ready for it?
Growing up, my dad told me that people are only able to be “as happy as they can stand to be.” I remember noticing that people naturally varied in their capacity to take in the good around them. At the same time, this ability can be learned ― and stretched. This is great news, because it means that anyone has the ability to become more joyful, grateful, expansive versions of themselves…should they choose to do so. Fast forward decades later, and my coach taught me about the power of checking in with yourself and asking, “how good can I stand it?"
How to spread positivity (hint: it’s easier than you think)
It’s not about you (and why that’s a good thing!)
Planning and creating my first workshop was an adrenaline-filled process, and ultimately one of my greatest personal and professional successes to date. Yes, the workshop went smoothly, but beyond that I was reminded of what happens when you 1) step out of your comfort zone, 2) do the thing that scares you, and 3) remember to get out of your own way.
Are you moving through life too quickly?
Slowing down is crucial to make sure you’re moving in the right direction, and creating a life that you actually want to be a part of every day.
Otherwise, you might go go go in a single direction for years, only to wake up one day and wonder, “How did I even get here? Is this what I really want? Do I like my life? Am I happy?"
